It's ME. Yeah, that's right . . . all about ME. First of all, here's the thought for the day: "It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect its successful outcome." -William James
Today I had my first session with my new therapist. I know. We don't talk about going to therapists right? Because EVERYBODY on this planet is NORMAL and PERFECT. And NOBODY would ever need to talk about issues . . . or problems . . . or fixing things . . . or making things better . . . right? So let me go ahead and just get it out there. I AM BACK IN THERAPY. And I absolutely, positively LOVE my new therapist. I have been holding A.LOT.OF.THINGS.IN for a VERY.LONG.TIME. Guess what? That is NOT HEALTHY. Because someday something might just happen that will ROCK YOUR WORLD TIMES TWO. And then all of these emotions will come to the surface and you don't quite know how to deal with them and process them. That's where it helps to have someone to bounce ideas off of . . . or listen . . . or help redirect, etc.
So here is the insightful advice my therapist gave to me today. Don't worry, I won't even charge you for passing on this helpful information:
- I need to live IN THE MOMENT.
- I need to find PEACE and QUIET in my life. I need to pray to have my heart filled with KINDNESS and COMPASSION.
True story/sad story: My therapist asked me what hobbies I have or what I enjoy doing that lifts me up and nourishes my spirit. Wow. I was . . . SPEECHLESS. Because my whole life has revolved around my husband and my children and my church calling and my community service . . . I HAVEN'T MADE TIME FOR ME. I don't even KNOW what uplifts me . . . or nourishes my spirit . . . or makes me happy, fulfilled, etc. I have been so busy trying to STAY BUSY so I would not have the time or energy to think about ME.
I guess it took the rug from being pulled out from under me to make myself . . . MAKE TIME FOR ME.
11 comments:
I'm really good at making time for me. This might be called selfish, I call it staying sane. Come to Utah, and we can do "me" things all the time. Sometimes just going to a cafe you like (even if you have to do homework), and taking 3 hours to eat a sandwich and sip a soda will do wonders for your soul. Love you sister.
this is like a total flashback for me. jsut wait until you find taht balance, heidi! the balance of living a real life, which includes YOU along with your family. it's so fulfilling.
Uh...did you read my recent post about how I am on meds and seeing a counselor? Trust me, I totally support you in getting yourself healthy and in a better place mentally. Trust me, it is very much worth it to be at peace and not in pain all the time. You go GIRL!
My name is Lora and I have been to counseling at 2 different points in my life. THERE, I said it! ha. Heidi, when I lived with you, you were always doing things for others. And although that is a great thing, you can't continue to give unless you take care of you. Stop and smell the Lilacs and Find that happy place! Love ya.
TOTALLY done therapy 3-4 times in my life. And I totally think people need to be really open about it, so everyone will do it!
And I'm like Anne. Awesome at doing me stuff. I just let everyone worry about themselves basically, ESPECIALLY anyone over the age of 18, but even my kids need to solve there own problems-- I don't drive late homework to school, I don't make lunches, I don't re-do their messy jobs, I don't chase them around about scouts. I just don't. That's how I get me (exercising, reading, girlfriend) time.
That makes it sound easy, but I think it's kind of a personality thing--some of us are born a little more selfish?? Or without kids with special needs?
Heidi Dear ...
If you start spending your time on you , will you still have time to address the question " What About Me? (Padre)".
You know we will be there in less than 60 hours and I am looking forward to the fix it up days. So girl, don't you go thinking about you when you should be adding to MY list of Dad To Do's.
On the other hand, wouldn't it be unique if we spent the whole week on "it's all about Heidi"? Sounds delightful to me!
See you soon Sport.
Padre
Hi Heidi! Good to meet you. I've been meaning to stop by...I am a HUGE fan of therapy. Been there, done that, still do whenever I feel like I need some guidance. I hope you get what you need. I look forward to getting to know you better. Looks like we run in the same blog circles...fun...fun!
as your sister says "riddle me this"
why is it that you are sending me back to therapy. Your too far away and I want to be with you. I guess that I'll have to settle on one week for now. See you tomorrow !
Mom . . . I'm not supposed to send you back to therapy. That's supposed to be my sister's job. :0)
Come to UT and we can do lots of hobbies. I can hook you up! Love you!
I am so glad you love your therapist. It is so good to have a professional that is a good match for you. When I was hospitalized for the post partum depression I finally met a wonderful psychiatrist and, boy, did it make all of the difference.
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